Daily3 Life’s Moments

My son Andrew has developed quite an interest in photography.  Do you have any photos that your children have taken? 

**  A Tudor who tooted a flute
tried to tutor two tooters to toot.
Said the two to their tutor,
“Is it harder to toot
or to tutor two tooters to toot?”

**  Luke’s duck likes lakes. Luke Luck licks lakes. Luke’s duck licks lakes. Duck takes licks in lakes Luke Luck likes. Luke Luck takes licks in lakes duck likes.

from Dr. Seuss’ Fox in Socks

**  2 Y’s U R.
     2 Y’s U B.
     I C U R.
     2 Y’s 4 me! 

Tongue twisters are fun!  Try some!  Do you know of any good ones?  Share with me!
 

** At dusk I come without being fetched. At dawn I disappear without being stolen. I am a poets tears and a sailors guide. What am I?

** I am a token of ones love. I have no beginning and no end. Who am I?

** Whoever makes me, sells me. Whoever buys me, doesn’t need me. Whoever needs me, doesn’t buy. What am I?

**  Satellite clocks that do not tell the correct time???  We had a power outage for about an hour last night..when the power came back on, I DEPENDED on the satellite clock to set all my clocks…however, as I was to find out … my satellite clock was an hour behind!  Hmmm…how mysterious!

**  I have never witnessed snowstorm and thunderstorm happening at the same time…it was quite interesting as you watch out the window…heavy snow in strong winds and then claps of thunder.

**  How you cannot seem to find an item where you knew for sure where you had last left it.  You go back to that last location and the item is not there…you search everywhere for it but … mysteriously a few days later that same item is found back at the last location where you left it!!!

Do you have any mysteries in your life….unsolved????  Share with me!

**  Bring Food - It’s as simple as taking a few extra sandwiches when you go out. When you pass someone who asks for change, offer him or her something to eat. If you take a lunch, pack a little extra. When you eat at a restaurant, order something to take with you when you leave.

**  RESPECT - Give the homeless people the same courtesy and respect you would accord your friends, your family, your employer. Treat them as you would wish to be treated if you needed assistance.

**  EDUCATE — both your children and your community.  Be an enthusiast and get others interested in helping the homeless.  Some ways to do this can be: writing a column for your local community paper, volunteering at a homeless shelter or a battered women’s shelter and bring your children, friends, family along, recruit local businesses to get involved in a food/toy/goods donation program, etc.  There are lots and lots of ways one can be creative to help the homeless.

 Can you come up with some creative initiatives?  Share with me!

** Cancellation Policy — NONE!!!  You can’t get out of your contract unless you are on your dying bed!!!  Otherwise you will need to pay all of the months owing till your contract end date!

**  Lack of Classes — During Peak Gym Hours, you will not get into your classes because they are always full! (unless of course you come 30 minutes early to sign up for a spot)

**  Lack of machines to use during peak gym hours — sooooo…if you can’t get into your gym classes and you decide to use a machine — GOOD LUCK!

What gym do you belong to and did you have any bad experiences with them?  Share with me.

**  Spinning — the ultimate cardio and sometimes strength class.  Try it some time and you will be hooked!

**  Rush, Venus, whatever the gym calls it — basically a strength workout with some components of cardio training…those glutes will pay for it!! But worth it!!

**  Yoga/meditation — must have everyday!  Just to keep a balance of your life!

Besides having a good healthy diet, everyone needs some sort of exercise.  Start a program today to save your life!  Suggest some other good exercises you do or may know of!  It’s a great life.

**  Waking Up In The Morning

Waking up this morning I smile
knowing there are 24 brand new hours before me.
I vow to live fully in each moment,
and look at beings with eyes of compassion.

As we wake up in the morning and open our eyes we may like to recite the above gatha. We can start our day with the happiness of a smile and the aspiration to dedicate ourselves to the path of love and understanding. We are aware that today is a fresh, new day, and we have 24 precious hours to live.

Let us try to get up from bed right away after following three deep breaths to bring ourselves into mindfulness.  We may like to sit up and gently massage our head, neck, shoulders, and arms to get your blood circulating. We might like to do a few stretches to loosen our joints and wake up our body. Drinking a cup of warm water is also good for our system first thing in the morning.

Enjoy the dark morning sky. Many stars are twinkling and greeting us. Take deep breaths and enjoy the cool, fresh air.

**  Practice mindfulness daily :

1. Openness

Aware of the suffering created by fanaticism and intolerance, I am determined not to be idolatrous about or bound to any doctrine, theory or ideology, even Buddhist ones. Buddhist teachings are guiding means to help me learn to look deeply and to develop my understanding and compassion. They are not doctrines to fight, kill or die for.

2. Non-attachment to Views

Aware of suffering created by attachment to views and wrong perceptions, I am determined to avoid being narrow-minded and bound to present views. I will learn and practise non-attachment from views in order to be open to others’ insights and experiences. I am aware that the knowledge I presently possess is not changeless, absolute truth. Truth is found in life and I will observe life within and around me in every moment, ready to learn throughout my life.

3. Freedom of Thought

Aware of the suffering brought about when I impose my views on others, I am committed not to force others, even my children, by any means whatsoever – such as authority, threat, money, propaganda or indoctrination – to adopt my views. I will respect the right of others to be different and to choose what to believe and how to decide. I will, however, help others renounce fanaticism and narrowness through compassionate dialogue.

4. Awareness of Suffering

Aware that looking deeply at the nature of suffering can help me develop compassion and find ways out of suffering, I am determined not to avoid or close my eyes before suffering. I am committed to finding ways, including personal contact, images and sounds, to be with those who suffer, so I can understand their situation deeply and help them transform their suffering into compassion, peace and joy.

5. Simple, Healthy Living

Aware that true happiness is rooted in peace, solidity, freedom and compassion, and not in wealth or fame, I am determined not to take as the aim of my life fame, profit, wealth or sensual pleasure, nor to accumulate wealth while millions are hungry and dying. I am committed to living simply and sharing my time, energy and material resources with those in real need. I will practise mindful consuming, not using alcohol, drugs or any other products that bring toxins into my own and the collective body and consciousness.

6. Dealing with Anger

Aware that anger blocks communication and creates suffering, I am determined to take care of the energy of anger when it arises and to recognise and transform the seeds of anger that lie deep in my consciousness. When anger comes up, I am determined not to do or say anything, but to practise mindful breathing or mindful walking and acknowledge, embrace and look deeply into my anger. I will learn to look with the eyes of compassion on those I think are the cause of my anger.

7. Dwelling Happily in the Present Moment

Aware that life is available only in the present moment and that it is possible to live happily in the here and now, I am committed to training myself to live deeply each moment of daily life. I will try not to lose myself in dispersion or be carried away by regrets about the past, worries about the future, or craving, anger or jealousy in the present. I will practise mindful breathing to come back to what is happening in the present moment. I am determined to learn the art of mindful living by touching the wondrous, refreshing and healing elements that are inside and around me, and by nourishing seeds of joy, peace, love and understanding in myself, thus facilitating the work of transformation and healing in my consciousness.

8. Community and Communication

Aware that lack of communication always brings separation and suffering, I am committed to training myself in the practice of compassionate listening and loving speech. I will learn to listen deeply without judging or reacting and refrain from uttering words that can create discord or cause the community to break. I will make every effort to keep communications open and to reconcile and resolve all conflicts, however small.

9. Truthful and Loving Speech

Aware that words can create suffering or happiness, I am committed to learning to speak truthfully and constructively, using only words that inspire hope and confidence. I am determined not to say untruthful things for the sake of personal interest or to impress people, nor to utter words that might cause division or hatred. I will not spread news that I do not know to be certain nor criticise or condemn things of which I am not sure. I will do my best to speak out about situations of injustice, even when doing so may threaten my safety.

10. Protecting the Sangha

Aware that the essence and aim of a Sangha is the practise of understanding and compassion, I am determined not to use the Buddhist community for personal gain or profit or transform our community into a political instrument. A spiritual community should, however, take a clear stand against oppression and injustice and should strive to change the situation without engaging in partisan conflicts.

11. Right Livelihood

Aware that great violence and injustice have been done to the environment and society, I am committed not to live with a vocation that is harmful to humans and nature. I will do my best to select a livelihood that helps realize my ideal of understanding and compassion. Aware of global economic, political and social realities, I will behave responsibly as a consumer and as a citizen, not investing in companies that deprive others of their chance to live.

12. Reverence for Life

Aware that much suffering is caused by war and conflict, I am determined to cultivate non-violence, understanding and compassion in my daily life, to promote peace education, mindful mediation and reconciliation, within families, communities, nations and in the world. I am determined not to kill and not to let others kill. I will diligently practice deep looking with my Sangha to discover better ways to protect life and prevent war.

13. Generosity

Aware of the suffering caused by exploitation, social injustice, stealing and oppression, I am committed to cultivating loving kindness and learning ways to work for the well-being of people, animals, plants and minerals. I will practice generosity by sharing my time, energy and material resources with those who are in need. I am determined not to steal and not to possess anything that should belong to others. I will respect the property of others, but will try to prevent others from profiting from human suffering or the suffering of other beings.

14. Right Conduct

(For lay members): Aware that sexual relations motivated by craving cannot dissipate the feeling of loneliness but will create more suffering, frustration, and isolation, we are determined not to engage in sexual relations without mutual understanding, love, and a long-term commitment. In sexual relations, we must be aware of future suffering that may be caused. We know that to preserve the happiness of ourselves and others, we must respect the rights and commitments of ourselves and others. We will do everything in our power to protect children from sexual abuse and to protect couples and families from being broken by sexual misconduct. We will treat our bodies with respect and preserve our vital energies (sexual, breath, spirit) for the realization of our bodhisattva ideal. We will be fully aware of the responsibility of bringing new lives into the world, and will meditate on the world into which we are bringing new beings.

**  Beginning Anew

To begin anew is to look deeply and honestly at ourselves, our past actions, speech and thoughts and to create a fresh beginning within ourselves and in our relationships with others.

We practice Beginning Anew to clear our mind and keep our practice fresh. When a difficulty arises in our relationships with fellow practitioners and one of us feels resentment or hurt, we know it is time to Begin Anew.

1) Flower watering - This is a chance to share our appreciation with the other person. We may mention specific instances that the other person said or did something that we had admired. This is an opportunity to shine light on the other’s strengths and contributions to the sangha and to encourage the growth of his or her positive qualities.

3) Expressing a hurt - We may share how we felt hurt by an interaction with another practitioner, due to his or her actions, speech or thoughts. (To express a hurt we should first water the other person’s flower by sharing two positive qualities that we have trully observed in him or her. Expressing a hurt is often performed one on one with another practitioner rather than in the group setting. You may ask for a third party that you both trust and respect to be present, if desired.)

4) Sharing a long-term difficulty & asking for support- At times we each have difficulties and pain arise from our past that surface in the present. When we share an issue that we are dealing with we can let the people around us understand us better and offer the support that we really need.

The practice of Beginning Anew helps us develop our kind speech and compassionate listening. Begin Anew is a practice of recognition and appreciation of the positive elements within our Sangha. For instance, we may notice that our roommate is generous in sharing her insights, and another friend is caring towards plants.

Recognizing others positive traits allows us to see our own good qualities as well.
Along with these good traits, we each have areas of weakness, such as talking out of our anger or being caught in our misperceptions. When we practice “flower watering” we support the development of good qualities in each other and at the same time we help to weaken the difficulties in the other person. As in a garden, when we “water the flowers” of loving kindness and compassion in each other, we also take energy away from the weeds of anger, jealousy and misperception.

We can practice Beginning Anew everyday by expressing our appreciation for our fellow practitioners and apologizing right away when we do or say something that hurts them. We can politely let others know when we have been hurt as well. The health and happiness of the whole community depends on the harmony, peace and joy that exists between every member in the Sangha.

Try some of these and good luck!

**  My son has requested we make an Easter Marshmallow Chicks with all its dressings - I’ve searched high and low and have come up with this recipe…will give it a try!

**  Easter Egg Hunt — my husband and I always plan a “homemade” Easter Egg Hunt for our children.  Depending on the weather, it can be held inside or outside.  We buy plastic Easter Egg shells and place goodies inside the eggs and hide them around the home.  The children are then given “clues” as to where to find the eggs.  As my kids are too young to read, we draw pictures for them.

**  Classic egg dying — we make an Easter Egg tree to display all the wonderful creations from our Children.

How do you celebrate Easter with your children?  Share with me.

After 2 separate trips to the Alberta Children’s ER with 2 different children, I have add to my list of LISTS a daily gratitude list.  I have finally realized the profound impact of such a list…especially during those “down” times. 

Here are the 3 things that I am grateful for:

**  There is universal health care for my children.

**  My children’s laughter and the way they say “I love you mommy”

**  We have a roof over our head, clothes on our back and family to share our moments of fears, joys and happiness.

Do you have a daily gratitude list?  If not, start one!!